I concur completely, but to say so in public would be deemed racist. And that is not a joke.
Values and responsibility are learned traits. Some people learn the easier than others, but for the most part, people will turn out in a predictable manner considering how they are raised.
Why would that be deemed racist? Actually, I mostly agree with that. And disagree that the "armed society is polite society" is necessarily true, though I like it as a slogan.
In Vermont, guns are mostly used responsibly because of culture, upbringing, values, as you say. The fact that they are rarely used for violent crime has little to do with the fact that anyone could be packing; I don't, and I don't think most people, give that fact a second thought on a day to day basis. There is also the sense of community that is very strong here. People know, and rely on, their neighbors; that cohesion and interdependence, as well as the low population density, reduces the kinds of stresses and conflicts between people that can trigger people with mental illness to act out violently, reach for a gun to "convince" someone to get off their lawn, etc.
That culture and upbringing is lacking in most parts of most big cities where crime (and violent crime) is rampant. And stresses are much higher. That's not racist, it's just the truth.
Don't mistake what I'm saying for calling for greater regulation of gun sales. I think we're past the point of diminishing returns there and would like to see some relaxation where it's practical. I just don't think that is practical in big cities, and don't have a problem with the existing restrictions staying on the books there. Here in Vermont, there has been a movement for some while to toughen up the gun laws, that was given a big push forward a couple of years ago when a DCF social worker was stalked and shot dead by an angry, mentally ill mother. Gun control advocates started screaming that she should never have been able to buy a weapon. I consider that a kneejerk reaction to an isolated incident, and I'm happy that our Gov. Scott is against stricter legislation. I would vote against any state congressman that tried to push that legislation through because it's an unnecessary imposition on Vermonters and would be a sad loss of freedom for the state.