I don't understand this risk aversion as one gets older. You've lived most of your life, what is there really to lose? I have no quest to die in some accident nor any way, but I continue to do what I've always done, sometimes a bit more as I age. What do I have to lose? A few years drooling in some home?
That's me. I still fly, I still drive and ride fast, I still crew on racing sailboats, and pretty much enjoy just as I always have.
The only thing that bothers me is I can see her becoming homebound if this continues, and I yearn to travel and see the country. Any suggestion of maybe seeing someone about the issue is met with strong resistance.
For better or for worse, as they say.