PILOT SPIN
Spin Zone => Spin Zone => Topic started by: Rush on February 24, 2025, 05:57:15 AM
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My husband asked Grok 3 this question. Interesting response. It's not wrong.
Why do I know my wife so well after 40 years of knowing her?
After 40 years with your wife, knowing her so well comes down to a mix of time, repetition, and the way your brain’s wired to adapt. You’ve spent roughly 14,600 days—350,000 hours—around her, soaking up patterns in her habits, moods, and quirks. That’s not just casual observation; it’s a masterclass in one person, built up through countless little moments—how she takes her coffee, what ticks her off, or the look she gives when she’s quietly plotting something.
Your brain’s been fine-tuning itself for this. Humans are built to recognize patterns and predict behavior—call it survival instinct turned domestic. Every time she’s reacted a certain way to a late dinner or a bad joke, your mind logged it, strengthening those neural pathways. Scientists figure long-term familiarity like this leans on the hippocampus and prefrontal cortex, areas that handle memory and decision-making. After four decades, you’ve got a mental encyclopedia of her—updated daily, even if you don’t notice.
It’s not just brain stuff, though. You’ve shared stakes—fights, wins, kids, bills—that force you to pay attention. You’ve seen her at her rawest and her best, and that kind of exposure strips away pretense. Plus, there’s the feedback loop: she knows you’re watching, so she’s shaped by that too, consciously or not. It’s like you’ve co-authored each other’s user manuals.
That said, 40 years doesn’t mean you know everything—people still surprise you, right? But you’ve got the big picture, the rhythms. It’s less mystery, more muscle memory. And honestly, sticking it out that long means you’ve both let each other in deeper than most ever get. That’s the real trick.
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How do you people do it? I'd rather eat Kale everyday than get married again, and surprisingly, I HATE Kale due to childhood abuse with it.
Yeah, it's good for you. So what. Is marriage good for you. ;D
Congrats to all who can do it long term. Is it a form of Pergetory though? Asking for a friend.
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We've been married 30 years in August. We celebrated with family in Hawaii in January. It's not always been easy, but it's always been wonderful.
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How do you people do it? I'd rather eat Kale everyday than get married again, and surprisingly, I HATE Kale due to childhood abuse with it.
Yeah, it's good for you. So what. Is marriage good for you. ;D
Congrats to all who can do it long term. Is it a form of Pergetory though? Asking for a friend.
It's not for everybody. It is indeed EXTREME intimacy. Merging with another yet you're still an individual so there's always friction and conflict. To put it in popular jargon, you need to maintain boundaries.
The religioius vows talk about becoming one as if there are no boundaries but that's not what it means. It means becoming a team to face the world together and literally merging your genes to make other humans, THAT part IS no boundaries. But it's clear you each still retain your own individual soul and free will.
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Coming up on fifty-four years in April. We met a little over fifty-five years ago. Our meeting each other was a gift from God. It's called love, Anthony, a true treasure despite the current medical bumps. I took an oath on that day and work hard to uphold it every day.
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Coming up on 53 years. A lot of ups and downs, two beautiful children, grandkids. Separations when I was in the military and airline. I think it’s been worth it.
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15 years a few days ago.
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Speaking from experience, the first 40 years were the hardest.
It got easier after that z
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How do you people do it? I'd rather eat Kale everyday than get married again, and surprisingly, I HATE Kale due to childhood abuse with it.
Yeah, it's good for you. So what. Is marriage good for you. ;D
Congrats to all who can do it long term. Is it a form of Pergetory though? Asking for a friend.
Picturing Anthony getting spanked with a big kale leaf. :-[
I’m on my second marriage (28 years) and that Grok answer Rush posted really nails the truth. But what I’ve gone by ever since my husband and I met is the silly smile I have just thinking about him, and how I’d rather spend time with him than anyone else. I have friends I enjoy, but my husband is in a category of his own. He still feels like a miracle to me.
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Picturing Anthony getting spanked with a big kale leaf. :-[
I’m on my second marriage (28 years) and that Grok answer Rush posted really nails the truth. But what I’ve gone by ever since my husband and I met is the silly smile I have just thinking about him, and how I’d rather spend time with him than anyone else. I have friends I enjoy, but my husband is in a category of his own. He still feels like a miracle to me.
His only flaw being a pilot and buying an airplane. ;D
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His only flaw being a pilot and buying an airplane. ;D
I've spent a bunch of money on aviation. The rest I've wasted.
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I've spent a bunch of money on aviation. The rest I've wasted.
+1
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His only flaw being a pilot and buying an airplane. ;D
You nailed that one, Jim.
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It means becoming a team to face the world together
Married 25, together close to 30. We have taken on the world, had each other's back, and are still best friends, even after retirement when we're together almost all the time. Doesn't get any better than that!