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Spin Zone / Re: One of the secrets of being old
« on: June 14, 2017, 09:25:38 AM »
We lived in separate states but eventually I met one of them in real life. And here is why you reminded me of him. This kid wanted more than anything to be a car mechanic. He loved cars, but he was not able to learn how to work on cars at school. There was no mechanic shop. Their was a private school but he didn't have the money. He worked at a pretzel place in the mall, and turned most of his money over to his parents who had run into financial trouble and were about to lose their home. For three years I played with these guys, and in all that time this kid kept wanting to move away from home and start his own life, but felt obligated to assist the family. He had one of the strongest work ethics I have ever seen in a person of any age, and it was heartbreaking to see him unable to follow his dream. He would not abandon his parents to lose their home, but he was sacrificing his future.
In his case, besides the whole mortgage fiasco that got his parents into that pickle, the entire problem was that high school is focused on college prep. We have been lied to now for generations, that everyone can be a doctor or lawyer and we need to force all children through 12 years of school with those professional goals in mind, and we have gotten away from respecting other career choices - the blue collar choices. I don't know how or when carpentry and welding and mechanics got out of the public school curriculum, but it was not available to him and resulted in him feeling trapped and blocked from moving on in life. That and his parents; his father had been taken ill - it was not that they were slackers either. The bottom line is this family was badly hurt by this country's economic and educational situation.
But the kid on the inside was no different from any of us at that age. He had the same dream - he wanted to find a nice girl and raise a family, and he wanted to have a solid career doing the thing he knew he was good at.
That's an interesting story. I hope he was eventually able to follow his dream. There are good kids out there, and they are facing challenges we could never imagine. Technology, the economy, the poor direction society is going, and "real" job growth are all big issues. I fear that lack of good jobs, that pay well are not as available today. I think a lot of younger people are "settling" for less.